Cold Coffee & Holy Moments: Finding God in the Chaos of Motherhood

This morning, in sunny Minnesota, I brewed a beautiful Chemex cup of coffee—Colombian, from Temple Coffee Roasters, with notes of macadamia, fuji apple and honey. It was truly gorgeous.

The sun was finally shining bright in the sunroom after a long, bleak winter of gray and cold. That kind of light feels earned this time of year, like a quiet reward just for making it through.

My five-year-old is home today—no school—so it’s just me, him, and the two-year-old. I had a vision for the morning. I thought maybe I could set them both up with something meaningful…something that would hold their attention just long enough for me to sit.

Just for a minute.

I set up painting Easter eggs for the five-year-old—different brush sizes, water, paper towels, glue, glitter…everything he could possibly want. For the two-year-old, I spilled out train tracks across the floor, gave him trains to run around and around, and stacked a few books nearby for when his interest inevitably shifted.

I thought maybe—just maybe—I could sit in the warm sun, hold my coffee in both hands, and read a psalm. Just one moment of “ahhh.” The kind where your soul settles, and you feel filled—steady, present, held.

Sometimes it works out that way.

But today was not that day.

The five-year-old decided he didn’t want to paint. He wanted markers instead. So I pivoted, got him all set up again—but then he didn’t know what colors to use, so every 30 seconds he needed help deciding. I finally set a 20-minute quiet timer. We could talk when it went off.
He settled.

But the two-year-old had discovered the markers.
And not for coloring.
He was trying to eat the tips—one after another, faster than I could take them away. I moved the markers out of his reach but still accessible to his brother, which, of course, led to tears. Big ones.
Eventually—finally—they both landed in a moment of contentment.

I looked down at my coffee.

Cold.

The sun had shifted too—now tucked behind the tree just enough to dim the room.
And just then, the two-year-old grabbed another marker, looked straight at me—triumphant—and bit the tip.

I laughed.

And then, without warning, the laugh turned into a cry.

Not because my morning moment didn’t happen the way I had hoped.

But because this precious moment with my boys won’t last.

I reached for my phone to take a picture—to hold onto it somehow—but by the time I turned back, they had already moved on. The moment had passed, like it always does.

These days with littles are exhausting. They are loud and messy and constantly shifting. They rarely give you what you planned for, and almost never when you need it.

But they are also sacred.

They are filled with small hands and growing hearts, with tiny interruptions that are actually invitations—to teach, to guide, to love, to show them what patience looks like, what grace feels like, what it means to be steady when things don’t go your way.

Psalm 39 is a prayer for perspective—for eyes to see how fleeting this life really is. Not in a heavy way, but in a clarifying way. A way that reminds us that the hard moments are not permanent, and neither are the beautiful ones.

We ask for that awareness, but when it comes, it catches in our throat.
Because we realize…this is it.
This chaos.
This noise.
This constant need.
This is the very thing we will one day miss.

I am tired. All the time, I am tired.

I need time to myself, and sometimes I get it.
I need time with my husband, and sometimes I get that too.
And sometimes I need time and I don’t get it at all.
But even here—especially here—there is something holy being built.
Not in the quiet moments I imagined, but in the ones I didn’t plan for.

So maybe the prayer isn’t for perfect stillness in the sun with a warm cup of coffee.
Maybe it’s for open eyes in the middle of the noise.
To see the fleeting.
To feel the weight of it in the best way.
To know that even the interruptions are part of the gift.

Because one day, the coffee will stay warm.
The house will stay quiet.
The sun will sit exactly where it’s supposed to.
And I have a feeling I’ll give anything to hear a little voice ask me, just one more time,


“What color should I use?”

Be Like a Jellyfish: The Beauty of a Simple Life (and Simple Parenting)

The other day my 5 year-old and I learned something that stopped us in our tracks:

A jellyfish doesn’t have a brain.

It doesn’t have a heart.
It doesn’t plan.
It doesn’t hustle.
It just… floats.

It drifts with the current, eats when food comes by, moves when it needs to, and rests the rest of the time. No five-year plan. No color-coded calendar. No optimizing its “best jellyfish life.”
And somehow, it survives just fine.

Meanwhile, we humans — especially parents — are over here researching preschool philosophies at midnight and wondering if we’re already behind.

Sometimes I think we’ve made life much harder than it was ever meant to be.
Solomon figured this out a long time ago.

Thousands of years before parenting podcasts and productivity hacks, Solomon wrestled with the same thing.

In Ecclesiastes, he basically says:
Everything is chasing the wind.
You can’t control it all.
You can’t perfect it all.
So what’s left?
Eat.
Drink.
Enjoy your work.
Be grateful.

Not give up — just stop pretending we’re in control of everything.

There’s something deeply freeing about that.

The jellyfish way

If jellyfish wrote parenting books, they would be very short.

“Float.
Eat.
Move when needed.
Rest.”
That’s it.

No comparison charts.
No 12-step morning routine for toddlers.
No “How to Raise a Harvard Baby.”

Just responding to what’s right in front of you.
And honestly? That feels a lot closer to how God designed life to work.

Not frantic.
Not fear-based.
Faithful and steady.

Where we overcomplicate parenting

We overplan: “Should we enroll them in three activities or five?”

We overengineer: “Is this the optimal developmental toy?”

We overthink: “If I say the wrong thing once, will I ruin them forever?”

We chase “perfect.”

But kids don’t need perfect.
They need present.

A jellyfish survives because it doesn’t fight every current.
Parents burn out because we try to.

What simple parenting actually looks like

Simple doesn’t mean lazy or careless.
It means focused on what truly matters.
Not doing everything — doing the right few things well.
Here’s what that can look like:

1. Be calm more than you’re correct

Kids borrow our nervous system.

When we stay steady, they feel safe.

Not every behavior needs a lecture.

Sometimes they just need us to sit beside them and say, “I’m here.”

Safety builds confidence more than perfection ever could.

Punishment creates short-term compliance; relationship and coaching create long-term self-discipline.

2. Choose connection over control

Strong kids aren’t raised through fear — they’re raised through relationship.

Instead of: “Because I said so.”
Try: “Let’s figure this out together.”

They learn: I matter.
My voice counts.

Problems can be solved.

That’s how confidence grows.

3. Let them struggle (a little)

Jellyfish don’t micromanage the ocean.
We don’t have to micromanage every moment either.

Let them:
try and fail
pour their own milk
solve friend conflicts
be bored

Small struggles now create resilient adults later.

Rescue less. Encourage more.

4. Keep life slower than the world tells you

Overscheduled kids aren’t stronger — they’re exhausted.

Some of the best childhood memories come from:
backyard time
family dinners
unplanned Saturdays
laughing in pajamas

Boredom grows creativity. Slowness grows closeness.
You don’t need to maximize their childhood.
You just need to be in it.

5. Trust the calling God gave you

You were chosen for your kids on purpose.
Not because you’re perfect. Because you’re theirs.

We don’t need to engineer an extraordinary life.
We just need to faithfully love the people in front of us.
That’s holy work.

Diapers. Dishes. Bedtime stories.
It all counts.
Maybe the goal isn’t “doing more”

Maybe it’s this:
Float a little more.
Force a little less.
Trust the current God is already carrying you in.
Feed your family.
Laugh together.
Rest.
Repeat.
Not glamorous.
But meaningful.

And maybe Solomon and the jellyfish were onto something.

Life doesn’t have to be complicated to be good.
Sometimes the most faithful thing we can do is simply show up, love well, and let that be enough.

When God Says ‘Enough’: The Forgotten Hope of Nahum

This morning I opened my Bible to read Nahum, and quietly groaned as I knew I wasn’t going to get any light-hearted or fluffy takeaways for my day.

Reading the text, I could hardly understand it. So I decided to do some historical deep dives into why the book of Nahum is even in the Bible.
And what I found completely changed how I see this little, often-ignored book.

Nahum is short, intense, and unapologetically focused on one thing: the fall of Nineveh — the capital of the Assyrian Empire. At first glance, it can feel harsh, even uncomfortable. But Nahum isn’t really about destruction. It’s about justice.

To understand why Nahum matters, you have to understand Assyria. This wasn’t just another ancient nation. Assyria was infamous for brutality — mass violence, forced deportations, public torture, and psychological terror campaigns. They destroyed the northern kingdom of Israel and scattered entire peoples from their homes. To the ancient world, Assyria represented the terrifying reality of what happens when violent power goes unchecked.

About 150 years before Nahum, God sent Jonah to Nineveh. And the people repented. God showed mercy. He spared them.
But Assyria did not stay repentant. They returned to cruelty, conquest, and violence.

So Nahum arrives with a very different message from God:

Mercy was offered–
Now I come with justice.

Nahum boldly proclaims that this seemingly invincible empire would fall — and history shows that it did. Nineveh was destroyed in 612 BC, exactly as ancient historians and archaeologists confirm.

And here is why Nahum had to be in the Bible:


Without Nahum–God forgives
With Nahum–God also holds nations accountable
Without Nahum–God comforts
With Nahum–God also confronts violent systems
Without Nahum–Evil may win
With Nahum–Evil does not get final authority

Nahum protects a crucial truth:
God is not only personal — He is just. He cares about real people, real suffering, and real systems that cause harm.

Nahum tells oppressed people that cruelty does not get the final word.

It tells the hurting that violent power is not permanent.
It tells the faithful that God sees, remembers, and responds.

So today, Nahum doesn’t feel harsh to me anymore.
It feels hopeful.
Because it reminds us that while God is full of mercy and forgiveness, He also defends the vulnerable, confronts violent systems, and refuses to let evil have the final authority.
And honestly — that’s a God worth trusting.

Escaping Life on an Island: Turning Your Labor of Love Into a Shared Daily Task

We pour our hearts into building a home and supporting the people we love most; yet, how can work that is so full of love feel so empty. For many, managing a home and family is a labor of love that somehow results in a sense of isolation. This isn’t just a ‘stuck in a rut’ phase—it’s a systemic problem of who carries the load and who sees the effort. Whether you call it holy work or housework, here is how husbands and wives can stop the cycle of lonely labor bridge that divide to turn a solo struggle back into a shared journey.

She asked her husband to help with Christmas gifts this year.
For years she had quietly carried the responsibility of buying, wrapping, remembering, and planning for both sides of the family. This year she asked for help — just for one of their boys. She knew he might not follow through. Still, she asked, and no help was given.

The day before Christmas Eve, she asked him to clean the sunroom and assemble a sandbox. He did neither.
“The sunroom is a dumping ground of your stuff. It won’t bring me joy to clean it,” he said.
She laughed it off, cleaned it herself, and kept going.

On Christmas morning the stockings were hung with care — except hers, which was empty. The gifts were thoughtfully wrapped — except hers, which came in two brown boxes.

Then the children got sick.
She stayed up through the night with the croupy baby. At 2 a.m. she asked for help.
“It will hurt my back, and he won’t stay calm with me,” he said.
So she stayed awake alone, soothing, pacing, praying — getting maybe an hour of broken sleep.
The next morning she asked for a nap.
“Call your mom. I am sick,” he replied.

And something in her quietly broke.

A familiar ache returned — the one that whispers:
•You are unworthy of being protected.
•You are unworthy of being carried.
•You are unworthy of being anticipated.

This was not the first time she had stood here.
It was a pattern — one that had improved, yet still returned.

After allowing space for her emotions to settle, she calmly tried to communicate the hurt.

It wasn’t about the chores. It wasn’t about the gifts. It wasn’t about who was more sick.
It was about what the pattern had been saying.

The Real Wound
It wasn’t what the undone tasks communicated: you do it.

It was what they actually communicated: You are alone.

It was the quiet, repeated message that her needs were optional, that her exhaustion was not shared, that her heart was not being guarded. It was the realization that she was carrying the weight of the home without being emotionally or practically carried in return.

So she did what she has always done — she carried it.
She carried the nights, the planning, the sickness, the remembering, the loving, the anticipating. She carried the invisible work that keeps a family safe and steady. She carried it to protect her children, her home, her sanity, and her peace.

But the deeper hurt was not the work itself.
The deeper hurt was the loneliness inside the work.

The absence of being protected while protecting.
The absence of being anticipated while anticipating.
The absence of being pursued while constantly pursuing.
Not just tired — but alone.
Not just depleted — but unguarded.
That is what wounded her heart.

The Call
What do you do when it feels like the man called to love you as Christ loved the Church begins living as though he came to be served instead of to serve? What do you do when holy work starts to feel like lonely work?

First, You honor your call — even when he does not honor his (or it feels like he does not honor his).
Because one day, both will stand before God and give an account for every thought, every choice, and every act of love withheld or given.

Titus 2:4–5
“…train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”

1 Peter 3:1–4
“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives…”

Luke 10:27
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind; and love your neighbor as yourself.“

The first two commands in scripture are given by the apostles Paul and Peter, but the verse in Luke is from our sweet Savior Jesus.

Jesus places a wife’s highest calling not under her husband first — but under God first.
Everything a Christian wife does — her faithfulness, gentleness, service, perseverance, sacrifice — flows from this command.
Before Paul ever wrote about submission, and before Peter ever wrote about conduct, Jesus anchored a woman’s identity and obedience in this:

Love God first.

THEN love others from a filled, anchored, protected heart.

This means:
•A wife’s obedience is not slavery — it is worship.
•Her service is not erasure — it is love flowing from God.
•And her worth was never assigned by her husband — it was spoken by Christ.

Second, Pray and create space for you

Luke 5:16
“But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.”

This verse is simple, but it carries deep permission:
If the Son of God regularly withdrew to be alone with the Father, you are not weak for needing rest, quiet, or solitude — you are following His example.

A Word of Encouragement
To the wife and mother:
Your call to honor your marriage is holy work.
Every unseen sacrifice, every prayer whispered in exhaustion, every act of faithfulness that no one applauds — Heaven sees. Your perseverance is not weakness. It is strength wrapped in obedience. You are building something eternal, even on the days you feel depleted, overlooked, or unsure if your labor is bearing fruit.
You are not forgotten.
You are not invisible.
You are not unworthy of tenderness, rest, or being carried in return.
Guard your heart to ensure no bitter root springs up.

And to the husband:
You are called to live with your wife in an understanding and compassionate way — not simply to provide, but to protect her heart, to notice her weariness, to anticipate her needs, and to share the weight of the life you are building together. Your presence, your help, and your gentleness shape the emotional safety of your home more than you realize.
Strength is not proven by how much you can endure —
it is proven by how faithfully you carry what God entrusted to you.

Here are five direct biblical commands given to Christian husbands, followed by one command straight from Jesus Himself that defines how every Christian man is called to love — especially his wife.
These are not cultural suggestions.
They are spiritual responsibilities.

1. Love Sacrificially
Ephesians 5:25
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
Love is defined here as self-giving, protective, and costly.

2. Live with Understanding & Honor
1 Peter 3:7
“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect…”
A husband is commanded to study his wife’s heart and care for her emotional and physical well-being.

3. Do Not Be Harsh
Colossians 3:19
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”
Gentleness is not optional — it is obedience.

4. Provide & Protect
1 Timothy 5:8
“Anyone who does not provide for their relatives… has denied the faith.”
Provision includes emotional, physical, and spiritual covering.

5. Lead by Service, Not Authority
Ephesians 5:28–29
“He who loves his wife loves himself… After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body…”
A husband is commanded to nurture and protect his wife like his own body.

6. Jesus’ Command (the foundation of all of them)
Mark 10:45
“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many.”
This is the heart of biblical husbandry.
Jesus defines leadership as service, sacrifice, and self-giving love.
Not power.
Not convenience.
Not passivity.
But laying your life down.


A flourishing home is not built on one person becoming stronger,
but on two hearts choosing to carry the weight together.

When a Wife asks for a Nap: The Quiet Strength That Heals or Hurts a Home

There is a moment in marriage that does not look dramatic on the outside — but changes something quietly and deeply on the inside.
It’s the moment when a mother, depleted, sick herself, having just poured every remaining ounce of strength into her home and her children, finally asks:
“Can I rest now?”
And the answer is no.


This isn’t about colds.
It isn’t about who’s more sick.
It is about coverage.
Because when a woman becomes a mother, something primal awakens in her. She becomes the guardian of her child’s safety, calm, and well-being. She carries the invisible weight of regulation — soothing nervous systems, tracking symptoms, watching breathing patterns, keeping homes functioning even when her own body is faltering.
And yet, even the strongest mothers are not meant to be the only line of defense.


Recently, our home was deep in sickness.
I cleaned the kitchen, the living room, the sunroom.
I vacuumed, put away dishes, folded laundry.
I snow-blowed the driveway, walked the dogs, kept the house functioning while my husband rested and worked through illness.
And then, our 15-month-old developed croup.
So I stayed up all night — pacing, holding, soothing, watching his breathing — while sick myself. I slept maybe one broken hour.
At 2:00 a.m., exhausted, I asked my husband to switch with me.
He did not say Yes.
Later that morning, I asked for two hours of sleep.
He told me to call my mom.
And what hurt most was not the tiredness —
but the feeling of being uncovered.


Because what I had really asked was:
“Am I safe to collapse here?”
And the answer was no.
This isn’t about blame.
It’s about awareness.
Marriage isn’t just partnership in chores.
It is protection in vulnerability.
It is saying:
“Rest. I will cover this moment.”
You are not asking for too much.
You are asking for shelter.
And shelter is what love is meant to be.



What “Covering” Really Means to a Mother
To the good men — the ones who work, provide, love their families, and show up more than they are ever thanked for — this is not an accusation. It is an invitation.
When a mother asks for rest, she is not asking for help.
She is asking to be covered.
Coverage is not about chores.
It is about nervous system safety.
She is asking:
“Can I stop being on guard now?”
This is where quiet masculine leadership is forged.
Not in loud declarations —
but in uncomfortable chairs.
In pacing floors while sick.
In losing sleep so your wife doesn’t break.
Because protection is not just about danger —
it is about burden.
It is standing between your wife and the edge of exhaustion and saying:
“Rest. I will hold this line.”
And safety is the foundation of intimacy, peace, and connection.

Rebuilding Coverage After a Hard Moment
Every marriage has moments that bruise.
Rebuilding coverage begins with soft honesty:
“I needed to feel safe resting with you — and I didn’t.”
Coverage is rebuilt when listening replaces defending, and tenderness replaces tension.
New agreements are formed. Trust returns. The home becomes safer than before.
Because marriage is not about never missing a moment — It is about restoring the moments we miss.
And when coverage is rebuilt, love deepens.
Not perfect —
but protected.

God, help us heal and recover. Let men love their wives as Jesus loves: softly, humbly, here to serve rather than to be served. Let wives encourage and help their huband, children and homes as You have commanded. Heal Christian roles and marriages. Bring unity, rest, peace and perspective. Amen

Be Still — A Devotion for a Busy Mother’s Heart


This morning I was giving my sick five-year-old a bath. Steam fogged the glass door and rubber ducks bobbed gently in the water. He peeked out from behind the glass to ask what I was reading.


“The Bible,” I said. “Psalm 37:7.”
He asked me to read it to him.


“Be still before the Lord.”


He thought about it for a second, then asked:
“What does that mean?”
And then — very practically —
“And for how long?”


I chuckled. But honestly, it was a very good question.
For how long do I have to be still?


As a mom of two young boys who works full-time, manages a house, two vehicles, school schedules, groceries, appointments, birthdays, meals, and everything in between — with a husband who works full-time and is in school for his MBA — when exactly do I have time to be still?
And how long is long enough?


So I went back to the original language to find out what God was really asking.
What “Be Still” Really Means
The Hebrew phrase in Psalm 37:7 is:

דּוֹם לַיהוָה — Dom la-YHWH
And it does not mean “sit quietly.”


Dom means:
to stop striving
to cease inner agitation
to loosen your grip
to surrender your case
to stop defending yourself
to release your right to control the outcome


It was even used in courtroom language. It literally means:
“Stand down internally.
Stop arguing your case.
Let God be your advocate.”
So this verse is not telling us to become quieter people.
It is inviting us to become lighter people.


“Before the Lord” (la-YHWH) means:
under His authority
within His care
inside His protection


Together, this verse gently says:
“Release your grip.
Entrust your whole case to God.
Let Him carry what you cannot.”


I’ve read this Psalm for over twenty years and never fully understood what God was really asking of me.
It took my child — slowing me down on an ordinary morning — to help me finally see that God is not asking for silence.
He is offering relief.
He is offering rest for my soul.
A Prayer for 2026
I hope 2026 becomes a year of slowing down.
Of asking simple questions.
Of doing more with less.
Of choosing presence over pressure.
Of trusting God with the outcomes and enjoying the moments in front of me.
Of loosening my grip — and letting God carry what was never meant to live on my shoulders.
Because maybe “be still” doesn’t mean stop moving.
Maybe it means stop carrying what isn’t yours.
And that — right there — is holy ground. 🤍

The God Who Stayed


For 48 hours, my mind was stuck on a loop.


A situation—small by some standards, big by the way it landed in my body—went wrong. Every time I thought about it, it felt like a gut punch. That sick, sad, overwhelming feeling would wash over me again and again.

My joy felt fragile, easily stolen. My thoughts felt uncontrollable.
And yet, in the middle of it all, I kept hearing the same still, quiet instruction:


Give thanks.


Not because the circumstances were good.
Not because the outcome made sense.
But because God was asking me to trust Him anyway.


I questioned myself. Am I being too “Christian”? Am I trying to force light where there isn’t any?
Still, I couldn’t deny it. The Holy Spirit kept whispering: Expect good in the unexpected. Give thanks, even when circumstances seem contrary.


Then on Monday morning, a five-minute phone call changed everything.


A misunderstanding.


Everything was actually fine.
Just like that.


I sat there stunned—not only by the resolution, but by the 48 hours that preceded it. The mental spirals. The self-criticism. The way I berated myself for not being more faithful, more grateful, more regulated, more “set on things above.”
I told myself, Katie, be better.
Be better and rejoice always.
Be better and give thanks in all circumstances.
Be better and don’t let the things of this world affect you so deeply.


But God didn’t speak to me the way I spoke to myself.
In my weakness—while I was dysregulated, anxious, and stuck—God was not disappointed. He was present. He had more grace for me than I had for myself.


Emmanuel. God with us.


While He is healing the brokenhearted, rescuing the captives, and overcoming evil with good, He also met me in my smallest of smalls. In a hiccup that felt enormous to my fragile heart. He was there.


Grace fell like freshly fallen snow.
Peace met me in the storm raging within.
Patience wrapped around my anxiety.


My sweet Savior did not rush me or scold me. He stayed.


This Christmas, that is what I’m holding onto.


Not perfection.
Not flawless faith.
Not constant gratitude.
Just Emmanuel—God with us.
Humble. Gentle. Near. Understanding.


And all I have to offer Him this year is the simplest, most sincere gift I can give:
Thank You, God.
Thank You for being with me.
Thank You for meeting me where I am.
Thank You for your grace.
That is my Christmas offering.

The God Who Binds Wounds and Names Stars

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
He determines the number of the stars; he gives to all of them their names.”
— Psalm 147:3–4

There is something startling about how close these two verses are.

One moment, God’s hands are near—tender, attentive, binding wounds that are raw and personal. You can almost see Him bending low, present in pain that is fragile, unseen, and deeply human. And then, without pause, the psalm lifts our eyes to the heavens: God counting the stars, naming each one, governing a universe too vast for us to comprehend.

This isn’t a shift in subject. It’s a revelation of who God is.

For us, intimacy and immensity feel like opposites. If something is that big, it must be impersonal. If something is that personal, it must be small. But Psalm 147 gently dismantles that assumption. The God who heals the brokenhearted is not too limited to rule the cosmos. And the God who rules the cosmos is not too distant to sit with a single wounded soul.

The psalm collapses distance.

It answers the quiet question suffering so often asks: Is my pain too small to matter?

The answer is no.

There’s a thread connecting these images—naming. God binds wounds, and God names stars. In Scripture, naming is never casual. It is an act of relationship, authority, and care. You name what you know. You name what you hold. You name what belongs to you.

The God who knows every star by name also knows every grief by name. Your wounds are not anonymous. Your sorrow is not lost in scale.

And then the psalm continues:
“Great is our Lord, and abundant in power; his understanding is beyond measure.” (Psalm 147:5)

That truth isn’t meant to overwhelm the brokenhearted—it’s meant to comfort them. God’s understanding has no limit. Even when you can’t articulate your pain, even when it feels tangled or quiet or ongoing, it is fully known.

Scripture echoes this same assurance elsewhere:

“Lift up your eyes on high and see: who created these?
He who brings out their host by number, calling them all by name…
Why do you say, O Jacob, and speak, O Israel,
‘My way is hidden from the Lord’?”
— Isaiah 40:26–27


The God who calls the stars by name does not lose track of His people. Not their grief. Not their weariness. Not their wounds.

The hands that hold the universe together are the same hands that touch your heart. If He can keep the stars in their places, He can keep you while you heal.

So today, rest in this quiet truth:
You are not forgotten in your pain.
You are not lost in the vastness.
You are held—by a God who is both immeasurably great and exquisitely near.


Closing Prayer

God who binds wounds and names stars,
we come to You as we are—carrying grief we can name
and pain we cannot yet put into words.
Thank You for being near enough to touch our wounds
and great enough to hold the universe together.

When our hearts feel fragile, remind us that we are not small to You.
When our sorrow feels unseen, remind us that nothing is hidden from Your care.
Hold us in the slow work of healing, moment by moment,
and help us trust that the same hands that set the stars in place
are steady enough to hold our lives.

Give us rest in Your nearness,
peace in Your power,
and hope in Your faithful presence.
We place our wounds, our waiting, and our hearts into Your hands.
Amen.

The Richest Person on Earth (Even If Just for a Day)

It’s always been easy for me to sink deep into the heavier emotions of life—stress, grief, overwhelm. Those feelings seem to rise straight to the surface. What doesn’t come quite as naturally is noticing when life is gentle and beautiful. I sometimes wonder: are these early parenting years really filled with more hard days… or am I just missing the opportunities for gratitude hiding in plain sight?

Either way, today was a reminder worth writing down.

The morning began with my husband hand-grinding coffee beans and making us a beautiful pour-over. As he sipped his mug, he suddenly remembered the preschool calendar—there was an event happening this morning. I didn’t feel up for going, but before I could say anything, he offered to take our almost-five-year-old himself.

This might sound small, but I was honestly surprised. I’m usually the keeper of the calendar, which we’ve had tension about before. So the fact that he remembered, took initiative, and volunteered to be the parent in the busy, loud preschool auditorium? It meant something to me.

When they got home, he was still in a great mood. We all gathered in our breakfast nook—our little family of four—laughing over the 75 different doorbell ringtones we had just discovered. Everything from jingle bells to Beethoven played through that tiny speaker. One even barked the national anthem. Our bichon-poodle mix did not appreciate that one, which made us laugh even more.

There wasn’t anything extraordinary happening, but the moment itself was extraordinary. Warm. Light. Easy. Joyful. A small slice of heaven on earth—if that’s a thing.

The rest of the day was just as full. Grandma took our 4-year-old swimming, and my husband and I spent the afternoon outside with the baby—raking leaves, mowing, cleaning gutters, getting our Minnesota home ready for winter. Simple work, but good work.

Then around 5 p.m., the unraveling began.

All three of my boys hit a wall at the same time. My husband snapped at the dog (to be fair, the dog was being annoying) and then at our four-year-old in passing. I felt that familiar urge rise up in me—to step in, to buffer, to protect our son and hold the emotional tone of the house together with my bare hands. Anxiety began creeping in.

So I gently told him he’d done great all day, worked hard all day, and maybe it was time to take five minutes to reset while I started dinner. And to my relief, he was able to do it. He actually stepped away, regrouped, and came back calm, joyful, and present.

That doesn’t always happen for us. Sometimes our days start well and end in emotional fallout—someone overwhelmed, someone exhausted, someone dysregulated. Honestly, often it’s my husband or our four-year-old. But today was different. Today had margin, softness, and repair.

And as I sit here reflecting, I feel overwhelmed—not with stress, but with gratitude.

We ended the night with a movie, Aladdin, and at the end, my husband swooped up our 4 year old and started singing, “A Whole New World.” As they danced, I looked at my husband and was awe struck by him. Words cannot convey the appreciation I had (have) for him this day.

All in all, we had an incredible day together as a family. We have health. We have each other. We have laughter, light-heartedness, and moments of pure silliness. We have our faith—something bigger than us that keeps us anchored to hope and purpose. We have good food, a home to care for, work to do with our hands. We have community and help when we need it.

Today, we even had emotional regulation, kindness, unity, smiles, and laughter woven throughout our hours.

And for that, I’m pretty sure I was the richest person on earth—even if just for a day.

When Work Measures You by Availability vs. Ability

I realized something painful recently: the reason I didn’t get that job I could have had was my choice — and also something I had no choice in.

I chose to stay on a three-ten schedule (30 hours a week) so I could be present for my newborn and my four-year-old. The job required Monday through Friday, 8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m., in the office.
I didn’t apply. My coworker did. He got it.

On the surface, it was a decision. I value being home with my kids. But underneath that choice is grief — and a sense of unfairness. Because the message I heard was: you’re less valuable because you can’t be fully available.

You can bring the same ability, outcomes, and commitment — but if you’re not physically there 8–5, you’re often seen as less promotable.

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The Cost of Choosing Family

I have two young boys, and I work three long days a week so I can be with them on the others. It’s a rhythm that helps my family thrive — but it’s also one that comes with invisible trade-offs.

When the promotion opportunity came up, I knew I could have had it if I accepted the traditional schedule. I didn’t. I wanted to stay home with my baby on Mondays and Fridays.

That means I missed out — and even though I consciously accepted it, it still stung. Because the criteria wasn’t who performed best, it was who was most available.

And it’s hard not to internalize that. To wonder if maybe I’ve lost my professional edge. To feel myself disengage, doing just enough to get by — even though deep down, that’s not who I am.

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The Data Backs It Up

Working mothers everywhere face this. Research shows that when your availability doesn’t fit traditional norms, your career often stalls — no matter your ability.

19% of working mothers say they’ve been passed over for a promotion because of motherhood, compared to 13% of fathers. (FlexJobs, 2024)

23% of working mothers have turned down a promotion because of family obligations.

Working mothers are 28% more likely than fathers to experience burnout. (Maven Clinic & Great Place to Work, CNBC, 2020)

81% of working moms report high burnout levels while managing work and family. (BCK Online, 2025)

In Canada, 47% of working moms report burnout from balancing work and child care. (Benefits Canada, 2024)


The pattern is clear: many workplaces still reward presence over performance.

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Why Availability Still Trumps Ability

Face time still matters. Promotions often go to those who are visible in the office.

Caregiving time conflicts. 66% of moms say they handle child-care crises, versus 22% of dads.

“Choice” can be a penalty. Turning down long hours is often seen as lack of ambition.

Burnout silences ambition. When you’re stretched thin, it’s harder to advocate for yourself or take on growth projects.

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What Can Help

For Working Moms:

Make your impact visible. Track wins and measurable outcomes.

Align on outcomes, not hours. Have open conversations about what success looks like.

Choose energizing work. Find one project that reminds you of your strengths.

Find advocates. Mentors and peers can help amplify your work.

Reframe your story. Protecting family time doesn’t make you less committed — it shows courage and clarity.


For Employers:

Reward results over visibility.

Provide real flexibility with accountability.

Create transparent advancement paths for part-time or flexible schedules.

Offer mentorship and visibility for working parents.

Recognize the mental load mothers carry.

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Redefining Success

I made a choice: to step off the traditional track and show up for my kids. I accepted a smaller window for advancement — but I’m realizing that doesn’t have to mean giving up meaningful work.

Maybe it means rewriting what success looks like. Maybe it means using my voice to advocate for workplaces that measure people by ability, not availability.

If you’re a working mom who feels unseen, know this: your value hasn’t diminished. The system just isn’t built for your reality — yet. But you’re not alone, and you can still define success on your own terms.